Not so superior Chinese Mothers?
Not so superior Chinese Mothers? - Chicago Boyz
The comments are thought provoking.
The argument is basically between focusing on academics and having not pushing kids so hard.
My opinion is you need to have a balance. You need to push, but you need to be realistic. The challenge when you are in a mixed marriage, which the author of Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior - WSJ.com is (look at the picture, and also the threat of taking away Hanukkah as well as Christmas presents).
Another comment I read someplace else was it only took the parent 10 years to figure out he was not a piano prodigy.
I am lucky that my daughter is a musical prodigy, so the hard work my wife has done has paid off.
The comments are thought provoking.
The argument is basically between focusing on academics and having not pushing kids so hard.
My opinion is you need to have a balance. You need to push, but you need to be realistic. The challenge when you are in a mixed marriage, which the author of Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior - WSJ.com is (look at the picture, and also the threat of taking away Hanukkah as well as Christmas presents).
Another comment I read someplace else was it only took the parent 10 years to figure out he was not a piano prodigy.
I am lucky that my daughter is a musical prodigy, so the hard work my wife has done has paid off.
posted by Ray Ritchey at
9:21 AM
2 Comments:
"I am lucky that my daughter is a musical prodigy, so the hard work my wife has done has paid off."
How very fortunate! Do Chinese mothers push children in fine arts (drawing, painting) as much as in music and math?
And I'd love to hear what your wife's parenting style is, and who is "softer"... are you like Amy Chou or not?
I too read the article when it came out, and it was Christine Lu's reply and comments that I read countering it afterwards.
http://www.quora.com/Parenting/Is-Amy-Chua-right-when-she-explains-Why-Chinese-Mothers-Are-Superior-in-an-op-ed-in-the-Wall-Street-Journal
I'll try to find time to read your link on replies...
Wow, that article is not something you see every day. In many ways, it is totally outrageous, but I think Amy Chua is being totally honest in her approach-for that I give her credit.
There is clearly a different mindset for many Asian parents in terms of their approach to education-for the most part, I think this is something to be emulated. Doesn't every parent want their kid to be the best they can be?
I agree with Chua that people preoccupied with kid's self esteem is out of hand. Kids who I see in the educational system expect high praise for doing what's expected. I also appreciate the Chinese idea that kids are strong.
That said, how over the top is her approach, even the title? Should everyone in the world play the violin and get straight As? I think she is living in somewhat of a bubble-obviously not every Chinese child has perfect grades, nor does every Chinese child master the violin or piano. It just seems too much that Ms. Chua wants to do something that the rest of the world is all to eager to do-paint Chinese people into a box.
I will say again, I appreciate the candidness of this article, thanks for posting it Ray. It has had me thinking. It brings some things to light that definitely should be discussed, but often are not due to political correctness.
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